Joy and I have been talking a lot about why we do the things we do (specifically within acting, music, and writing), and I just feel like it’s so important to have conversations that remind each other about who we are and who we want to be. I want to be all I was meant to be, not just parts of it. And knowing that means understanding the fact that I’ll seriously have to step out of my comfort zone. The goals of life is getting as close to complete and total happiness as possible, isn’t it? Shouldn’t it be? For us a big part of that is focusing on the best parts of our individual lives. Why not do the things that make us truly happy, at least as much as we can?
*let me just say this: finding your bliss is not a comfortable journey. There will be people who don’t understand. They won’t always understand why certain things make you happy. They won’t always understand why you have to say goodbye to them. They won’t always understand why they don’t understand. And that’s all okay! The truth is, being happy can sometimes mean having to put yourself first here and there. That can be a painful experience, both for you and for those around you. But, the great thing about that experience is that it will teach you balance. I truly believe that it takes a balanced mind to live a blissful life. At least for the most part.
I think that, for me, finding my own happiness is the sort of thing that comes in steps. There’s the maintenance portion and then there’s the actual happiness.
- I have to do my best every single day to create a little bubble of positivity around myself. Sometimes, that can mean keeping an eye on the people I surround myself with. I don’t think that it’s being naive or sheltering myself necessarily. I actually think it’s the opposite. Knowing what’s out there and choosing to walk the other way for the sake of my own mental health. This might not be the same for everyone, but for me, it’s essential. Taking stock of what goes on around me is what I think of as my maintenance.
- Once I know I’m maintaining some positivity, I can allow myself to seek out and do as many of the things that truly make me happy as possible. And I think that reminding myself to be positive beforehand helps me to appreciate those things even more.
I don’t want to be mistaken for thinking I can avoid everything bad in the world at all times. And really, that isn’t my goal. What I’m trying to say is that at the times when it’s possible, I try my best not to allow outside things to bring me down too much. And for me, someone who has had the bad habit of taking the whole world’s problems onto my shoulders, that is necessary.
I want to challenge myself (and anyone who reads this post) to take stock of your surroundings. Try to create some sort of balance in your life, something that makes it easier for you to enjoy life. Maybe you could work on giving yourself a little distance from the more negative things that you actually can avoid. Embrace the positive. I think that doing that will allow you to more fully enjoy the better parts of life. And believe me, I know it’s all easier said than done. But I hope that you’ll still give it a try.
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